Why does what other people think of us have such a great effect on us? Why do they matter? Are they making you happy? The problem of what others think of us has been going on since forever. When someone say 'Ewe, why would you wear that?' or maybe a girl at work or school called you fat? What are you going to do about what they say? You can take it to heart and change your self to make them happy, or you can stay true to who you are and be happy! Why do we let our definition of our own beauty be defined by someone else? You are beautiful! And no one else matters!
When I was bullied I would change to make everyone else happy. It is exhausting. I had lost who I truly was. When I was taken to the hospital one of the first thing I was asked was,
"Shawnee who are you?" I couldn't answer, I didn't know who I was. I could of told you who my friends were and what made them, them , but I couldn't tell you who I was. I had changed my self so much to make everyone else around me happy that I had lost sight in who I really am. I couldn't see my own true self worth or beauty any longer. While I was in the hospital my nurses and techs and social workers all asked me what I liked to do. At first it started off as, 'oh, I like to just spend time with my friends.' Later they would ask me what I liked to do and I was able to start to say, 'I like to be with animals, and I love music.' When I was finally cleared to leave the hospital they asked me one last time and I was finally able to tell them who I truly am. I said, 'I am a ranchers daughter, I love animals and music, I love to wear my boots, my buckles, a old t-shirt and jeans." Before I went into the hospital one of my friends had made fun of me because that is all I wore. I had started to do my hair down more and even curly, I wore skinny jeans, heels and flats. I had lost sight of who I truly was. But why? Why did I care so much about what other people thought? Was it because they were my 'friends'?
When people say something about who you are, what do you do? Well, now for me I think about what they said and ask my self if it who they want me to be, or who I want to be. If what they said will make me happy. I also ask if from a week, a month, or even a year from now will what this person said matter to me, or will this person even matter to me? When someone comments on who you are, what you look like, or what your wearing. Ignore it, what they say should not effect who you are. What they say is not who you are. You can't be me and I can't be you. I can only the best me I can be each day. Be an original, because everyone knows that originals are worth way more then a copy. You are beautiful the way you are there is no need to change for anyone else. Be who you were born to be, DO NOT BE WHAT THE WORLD OR OTHER PEOPLE WANT YOU TO BE. Be yourself. Wake up in the morning look in the mirror and tell your self 'I am beautiful', 'I am who, I am.' When you say that believe it. And go through your day knowing that you are an original of you and that no one else can ever be like you.
